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Biba
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« Reply #2 on: April 19, 2010, 06:37:27 AM » |
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Dear Michael - just to let you know, my 'impossible task' has shown possibilities, due largely, to your 'Effortless Success' CD.
To explain, my youngest son (in his thirties) stopped communicating with us about a year ago. Everything we did to try to improve things failed. He was close to his older brother, but he had the same negative, angry response. Presents were not acknowledged, special occasions were unmarked, phone calls were blocked and we were not welcome on personal visits.
His angst was directed mostly towards me as I worked to create a friendly relationship with the mother of his three year old son and her family. She and our son had been together for a short time and lived separately, but knew each other as teenagers; both are excellent parents. We live nearby in this area.
As you rightly say, 'problems with other people are always in the seeing' and he seemed to think we had, "taken her side against his", which is far from the truth. They are lovely people, the child is bright and well-cared for, he has lots of access and I feel we are very lucky.
Last week I wrote him a letter, using your concepts about the wall of silence and all we had to do was just start talking again. I told him I loved him - always had always will. His father asked him out for a drink,and after a difficult start, explained a few things. Our son suggested that I ring him (well, male ego and he is a Leo!), so last night I did. It was a very brief call, but I said I will call again later in the week. Just a beginning, I know, but spring follows even the harshest winter.
Many thanks again for your daily messages - I hope others will find this helpful.
Barbara
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