MNCT 553 - The Essence of Coaching

[aniinl]

I really liked the newsletter today! And especially the Alice in Wonderland quote - even thought I've heard/read it a thousand times before (but only from you, Michael, haha). It just makes so much sense.

I like the 2 questions, *but* isn't there a step missing? I mean, ok, great if you know what you want, then those 2 questions are perfect. But what if you don't know what you want? Where do you start then? I would love to coach people to help them find out what they want, because I know how many people are out there who really don't know, and because I know how hard it is to actually sit down and trying to figure out what you want...

Right now I'm trying to coach a young woman who's not happy in her current job but has no clue what she actually wants to do. (I'm saying "trying" because she's actually my first guinea pig  ) What questions can I ask her to help her find out what she wants?

Thank you 

Anja

[Jen Waller]

How lucky are you having someone who has yet to identify what it is she actually wants to do, as your first guinea pig? Personally, I find there's something particularly special and rewarding about being involved when someone identifies what they want to do.

I'm actually just about to head out the door so can't go into too much detail at this moment but the first section of Michaels first book, "You can have what you want" which contains loads of ideas.

The other thought that springs to mind is that you say that

I know how hard it is to actually sit down and trying to figure out what you want...

Sometimes, it can actually be easier than you think it is, if you let it be that is

[aniinl]

Yes, I actually had the same idea yesterday (after I wrote this ;-)) - go back and look at Michael's book again, I remember a couple of great exercises in there...

Thanks Jen

Anja

[SuzInFrance]

I went through this for awhile myself.

I kept trying to think of something.

I thought of a lot of things I could learn to do that interested me.  And I am learning to do those things because they interest me.

But, I also wanted to find something I could do now.  And I guess I was trying too hard. 

So I started releasing on it.  (the Abundance course really works for me)

And it was the most obvious thing!
I'm really good at dealing with the "adjustment" of being an expat.
I could do that now.  I don't need to "learn" it.

My suggestion is that it's something too obvious probably.

The things that you've been attracted to for years are probably the things you would do very well and would love doing (probably because you've been doing them for years anyway)

enjoy and love,
Suzanne