Hi all

I am upset that I am viewed as negative and a kill-joy at work.

During discussions with people, I would point out the areas where the problems are and suggest that we look at these areas again. However, I don't usually have an immediate solution or example to give to show that the problem is there. Mostly, I would go, "But why would people want to go to the event just because there's a lucky draw? Our target audience might feel cheap if this is the only carrot we're dangling in front of them. We need to find a better reason for them to respond. Maybe we should rethink the idea and come up with a better one."

Do I sound cocky or arrogant or am I being harsh and putting people down? To me, I feel that I am just stating the facts (problem) and inviting everyone to see it as a problem and then we can come up with a solution that would be even better than the initial idea.

I know I am doing it wrong but I don't know how to break it to them gently.

Please help me. Even my boss thinks that I am not a team player in this way. But honest to god, I am trying to motivate the team to come up with the best solution possible. Or is it just that the rest of the team do not want to put in that extra mile and I am the one naively thinking that we're in the same direction? I get the feeling that they just want to come up with an idea, sell it to the client and not care about whether it is feasible or will do the client any good. They figured they can always 'explain' themselves afterwards. Sigh... this is so confusing to me.

Chuatee

Hi all,

What's the difference between the following:

1. Psychologist
2. Psychiatrist
3. Therapist
4. Counsellor
5. Life Coach

I need some professional help about my life - past, present and future. I feel lost and am periodically down because of past and present events and decisions. And I don't see a very satisfactory future because of this. I sometimes wonder if there are chemical imbalances in my brain that gives me a compulsive tendency. I also wonder if my negative attitude to life is due to my upbringing or current environment - which hasn't changed since childhood. I am approaching 40 and feel stuck all my life.

Where I am from, a Life Coach is probably not available unless you sign up for some motivational or NLP programs, which are financially beyond my means now. I know I can get a subsidized rate for psychologist, psychiatrist or counsellor but I wonder if these are the right recourses for me.

Who should I see for help? Thanks for advice.

Chuatee