How to heal the inner rebel

[emmacombes]

Hi,

For years now I have been trying to become a success in certain areas of my life surrounding money, I think i have been held back by my inner rebel.
I had a bad relationship with my parents growing up, teenage years, and if they told me to do something I would really get angry and resist and try not to do it just to annoy them.  Left to my own devices I would choose whats best for me however.

Although I have created some level of success in my life I have never really done what I truly want to.  I think I may have some inner child part of me that is sabataging my ability to succeed becuase of an inner rebellion as to what my parents would want.

I also have an embarrassment of being attractive or too successful, thinking people will see me as a little girl still, (I'm nearly 30). 

I just wanted some technique or reframe that can help me sort this out if possible?

Thanks!

[InnerConsultant]

Hi,

I don't know where you live but Michael is doing a one day workshop on Money this Saturday in London. Only 99 pounds so worth attending if you live near.

Do you know the integration of parts exercise? I think that will help a lot.

One part of you wants what is best for you.Hold this part in your right hand.

The other part wants to rebel against your parents. Hold this part in your left hand.

Ask the right part what the higher intention of that part is. Feel that higher intention and wonder if there is an intention even higher than that. Keep doing this until you are sure you have the highest intention of the part in your right hand.

Now ask the part in your left hand what the higher intention of that part is. Feel that higher intention and wonder if there is an intention even higher than that. Keep doing this until you are sure you have the highest intention of the part in your left hand.

At some point you will find that both parts have the same higher intention, perhaps that both parts want you to be happy, it may be something else but eventually you will find they both have the same intention. Your hands may then move together, if this doesn't happen automatically then move them together and enjoy thinking of the higher intention.

Please let me know how you felt after doing this.

Nick

[emmacombes]

Thanks for your reply Nick, sorry it took so long to get back, my last pc died a horrible death a few days later after my original post... 

eventually I got to the higher intention that both parts want to feel fulfilled, it went:

right hand: success, happiness, fulfilled
left hand: getting back at parents, satisfaction, fulfilled

it feels like a good reframe, and I felt a shift happen too.  I'm currently dealing now with healing some old stuff from my upbringing which I've started a new post on, so hopefully that will help!

thanks!

[parisimo]

You might look into Voice Dialogue - something you can read enough about (if you haven't already) to enable you to do some inner work on yourself. That said, your Inner Rebel has a lot of gifts to offer - and will not take kindly to being squashed ... say I ...  A Rebel With a Cause from way back.

P.S. Perhaps by "healing" you simply mean to allow your Inner Rebel the chance to responsibly express itself - without getting you into too much trouble. 

[emmacombes]

thanks Parismo,

I think I've done something similar to Voice Dialogue in Hypnotherapy, so will give that a try too.  Thanks for the reframe, yes, its true, i sense a lot less resistance from that!