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« on: October 29, 2010, 09:02:31 AM »

Hi everybody!
I don't think if I have a question or just looking for support but here it is :

Yesterday, I got through to Micheal's radio show, which I wanted to do for a long time. I listen all the time, but I really wanted to talk to Mr. Supercoach himself. Smiley)

Well, during the show I got SO nervous and my mind was racing. I forgot all my english and sounded horrible, besides the fact that I could have asked my question in a much shorter format, leaving room for other callers. I went back and relistened to the show, thinking oh, may be it wasn't as bad, but I honestly think I was the craziest, most scatter- brained sounding caller they have had in  long time, if not ever...

I am feeling very down today about this. I teach art workshops and use coaching techiniques to help my students progress. Everyone always comments on how CALM I am ....Oh, well...

I know its my ego that is hurt, but I am afraid to click on the radio show link now, because it throws me back to feeling of embarrassment.

Love you all and will appreciate anything anyone has to say!

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Anya
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« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2010, 09:53:05 AM »

Hi Anya



Consider this you lived to tell the tail, now just imagine if your thumbs fell off, while you was on the call not only would you have lost your English skills you would have had to buy gloves with out thumbs, and that's tough and even worse than that thumb-less mittens are even harder to buy.

Really though we all from time to time little bumps, it's what makes life so funny and strange and wonderful.


Ask your self this did you get a bit of paper through the door from the government telling you your now on the most wanted list for lake of English skills?  If NO- You need to try harder next time otherwise your fine and It's OK.

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« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2010, 03:51:20 PM »

Jay! You so right.. Thank you so much for replying to this. It does really make me feel much better. Its silly stuff, but sometimes we get stuck in something and need help to get un-stuck. (US Government still didn't knock on the door to investigate my terrible performance..  Cheesy)

Thanks again,
Anya
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« Reply #3 on: November 02, 2010, 08:22:16 AM »

Hi Anya

When your mind races like that can't think of anything better in this situation than doing Michael's wonderful exceise of taking a full minute in silence to, in whatever you know how, get really present with yourself..........after which ask yourself something like  what do I know to do or what can i learn from this experience?

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« Reply #4 on: November 02, 2010, 10:36:07 AM »

Hey Lenny! Thanks a lot for the advice. I actually did do it AFTER the call. The funny thing is Michael actually asked me to do this over the commercial break, but I guess I needed more time ... lol. It obviously didn't help soon enough. You are right, though, now that I know what to expect of a situation like that, may be I will go into on in the future knowing to "catch" that thought before it takes over me completely!
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« Reply #5 on: November 02, 2010, 05:33:13 PM »

Hi Anya

I think I would get nervous phoning into a radio show..........nerves are normal they are supposed to happen.......and the great thing is you can do it better next.......and you don't have to catch the thought..............just watch it as it floats by........because thoughts pass.

A great little technique for nerves is the 7/11 breathing techniques......it just interrupts process and fires off your body's sympathetic nervous system....

All you need to do is count to 7 while breathing in and then from 7 -11 on your out breaths................However, I find 7 too long so i count to 5 on in breaths and 8 on out breaths.

Sounds way too simple but this is so effective.

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« Reply #6 on: November 02, 2010, 07:29:20 PM »

As an extension to Lenny's breathing technique if you want to turn off your inner dialogue place your tongue the same way this picture shows. 



If you turn off the inner self crapper voice, you can then have more choice about how you want to feel and engage.

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« Reply #7 on: November 09, 2010, 10:44:35 PM »

Wow, guys, this is awesome! I had my first guitar lesson today and came home totally wound up (from excitement). I thought it was coffee, but after I practiced breathing, I calmed down immediately. It really does work and its so simple. The tongue thing-y is new to me, but I will give it a try tomorrow, as I am sure I will need to use it at some point! Smiley)

Thank you so much!
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« Reply #8 on: December 14, 2010, 05:28:20 AM »

I am feeling very down today about this. I teach art workshops and use coaching techiniques to help my students progress. Everyone always comments on how CALM I am ....Oh, well...

I know its my ego that is hurt, but I am afraid to click on the radio show link now, because it throws me back to feeling of embarrassment.

Love you all and will appreciate anything anyone has to say!

Thanks-

Anya

Hey Anya!

I'm glad you wrote cause this way many people can see we share the same concerns and fears. I totally relate to what you said, cause I've been listening to Hay House Radio for a few months now, and I would really love to call, but honestly I cannot imagine myself doing it. I would LOVE to speak to Michael, to Deborah King, to Sonia Choquette... It would be amazing, plus these are people I couldn't afford to interact with in real life. But making phone calls is one of my long-time fears. I have been making great progress lately, but I still don't feel like I could take on the challenge of calling in on an English-speaking Radio show (and it's not because of my English).

I'll tell you about a situation I felt very embarrassed about - when I was 15, I used to listen to a radio show hosted by a psychiatrist who spoke mainly about relationships and sexuality. I had zero knowledge about the topic, but I used to interact a lot in the chat room, and the doctor really noticed me and said he liked the way I think, and invited me to participate as a guest on the show! OMG, I couldn't believe it, but I thought it was such an amazing opportunity I couldn't refuse it. It took me about 1 hour to make up the courage to call him on his personal cell phone to arrange my coming in to the Radio headquarters, and when I went there, I was like in a trance cause of the anxiety and the excitement. I did OK on the show, but I thought I had nothing to contribute and that I was pretty boring. When I listened to the replay, I thought my voice sounded terribly and that everyone must have thought I was a looser. However, I got over it. After that, I called in to the show once, about a month later, and that was the last time I interacted with a radio station Cheesy However, now that I think about it, it's pretty amazing, I still don't know how that whole story could have happened.

Anyway, my experience is that no matter how frightened I am when making a call, when I actually get to speak to the other person, I do pretty well. The thing I am most afraid of is that I will forget what I wanted to say or that I won't be able to articulate it. Sometimes I practice the call in my mind and even in my own imagination, I can't seem to articulate the question, which makes me wonder how I could possibly do in reality, but often it works much better than I expect.
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« Reply #9 on: February 11, 2011, 08:21:01 PM »

hey dan77! what a great reply. thanks for sharing - no, really, thanks a lot. it really does help. i just noticed this, partially because i kept waiting to renew my subscription to the website. Wink
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