Hi Michael. On a Hayhouse show in recent months you touched on your aversion to the "Fake it 'til you Make It" philosophy. I've heard people refer to some aspects of coaching as exactly that, however: faking it until you're making it.
I'm a great advocate of coaching but I don't ever really know what to say to people who label affirmations and 'thinking positive, regardless' as lies, denial, or (even worse) encouraging unreasonable distances between the 'ideal' and the 'real' self--and therefore causing collapse (insert 'demise' music cue here
). (ideal/real being subjective terms, I know). These people might point to a film like American Beauty as an example of this schism (if you've not seen the film, everyone is chasing after images of who they want to be and in the end they all crack up because they can't get there).
So: why are coaching techniques NOT faking it 'til you're making it?
(I realise there is perhaps an entire book's worth of mileage in this one but it would be nice to chat about, thanks!)