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« on: February 16, 2007, 08:58:04 AM »

Hi,
I was wondering if anyone had some tips for me what books to read as a starter in coaching.
I'm not talking about how to start a coaching practice, but more about the skills. Listening, questioning, building rapport, motivating the client to commit and stick to their goals, etc.
I'm also very interested in NLP related stuff, but really "for starters". I have not done an NLP course yet, it's on the to do list for this year, but I would like to already study it a bit.

Thank you Smiley

Anja
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« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2007, 09:25:51 AM »

one very good book is "the coaching handbook" by Curly Martin

it covers a lot of skill bases, questions, as in the meta model, frame works, how to set up a practice, cover other parts of how to use NLP with in  coaching, and it's a good price.

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« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2007, 09:46:29 AM »

Hi Jay,

I have found a good all round coaching book to be (Sir) John Whitmores 'Coaching for Performance'

And no...it isnt all round..its the same shape as most other books !  Wink

Cheers,

Mark
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« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2007, 09:51:51 AM »

ooops..sorry..reply to Aniilnl..not to Jay....but please feel free to read my reply Jay... Smiley
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« Reply #4 on: March 01, 2007, 11:22:50 AM »

Hi

For developing your listening skiils my top ten would include Nancy Klines 'Time to Think'

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« Reply #5 on: March 11, 2007, 06:38:55 AM »

Thanks guys!
Reading "Coaching for performance" now, it is really good!

Anja
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« Reply #6 on: March 11, 2007, 08:31:34 AM »

Hi Anja, 

Sounds like you are starting something new in your life.  Cool

I have often thought about becoming a coach.  My training is a degree in Social Work and amongst other jobs 7 years working in a hospital as a Palliative Care Social Worker and Bereavement Officer. 

When I had children I decided that I wasn't in the right space to do this work any more and now work with my husband in his medical practice.  I love the patient contact and like that people still share their life challenges with me but I am not part of the therapeutic process. 

Coaching appeals because it seems so empowering. The individual also doesn't necessarily have a condition or crisis that is pivotal to the relationship.

I would love to hear more about your decision to pursue this work and will enjoy reading some of the book recommendations people have offered you.  Cheers Aussie Girl Smiley
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« Reply #7 on: March 18, 2007, 06:31:17 AM »

Hi Aussie girl,

why don't you just do it? ;-) Seeing your background I think you've been coaching already for years, without noticing. That's what happened to me.

I've been working with people ever since I started my first job, and all my jobs have trained me in communication with people.

My first job was at the employment office, where people who had lost their jobs came to apply for unemployment benefits - that trains you! People sit there and cry, others want to shoot you or beat you up, others are just completely shocked and helpless that they've just lost their jobs (I did that in East Germany, just after the wall came down and "all" people lost their jobs because in East Germany there was no such thing as unemployment... so for most of the people who came to me this was a life changing experience). And all I could do was just to listen to them and try to calm them down.
After that I worked as a travel agent - with much happier clients ;-) but who also appreciated if you listened and really found out what kind of holiday their looking for and offered them the perfect solution for their plans. Later I worked in several other customer service jobs where I always ended up getting forwarded the "difficult" clients who nobody could handle.

Now, for the past 7 years I've been a manager also in a customer service environment and I never EVER wanted to become a manager, because to me it meant controlling other people. I kept saying "I want to be a coach rather than a manager" but I never knew what that actually meant. To me just meant that I'm there to guide them rather to control or tell them what to do. I wanted to be kind of a "helpdesk" for whatever problem they can't solve. I love it if someone says "Call Anja, she'll know what to do!" And this is how I managed my team and I got to love it, it wasn't so bad being a manager after all ;-)

And then suddenly last year I came across the coaching and the light bulb above my head went on  Shocked and I thought that's it! All my interests and my skills are combined in this profession so this could be the job that I could have 100% fun doing. So I started to study it, because of course I have to learn some techniques and develop my skills, but the studies are fun and not hard at all because I'm really passionate about it and best of all, somethings are not new, I noticed I've been doing them all along, so I don't really have to memorize and learn things ;-) I just have "names" for them now and get some explanation why they work so well.

Okay, I hope I didn't go over board just now ;-) but if you think it's something for you, just try it, you don't really have anything to lose, have you? That was my approach, even in case I wouldn't make it as a coach, I can use all the knowledge in my current job.
And I'm only half way into my studies and my company already asked me to train other managers now, because they noticed that the department I was leading has had the least turnover rate (I hope that's the right word, I mean people resigning, coming and going) over the past years, so I must be doing something different then the others ;-))

So, coaching is good!!  Cheesy

Good luck!
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« Reply #8 on: March 18, 2007, 07:13:12 PM »

Thanks for the encouragement Anja,

 I love hearing the easy tone in your post when you write about your study.  It never ceases to surprise me how some information/ learning can be so easily assimilated into our being and behaviour.  A sure sign of a good path I reckon!!

Isn't it funny how each job we take on can help us acquire skills/information for the next no matter how bad they might seem at the time? 

I will always remember a uni job I had as a McDonalds Manager as being such an important skill developer for me. 

It taught me  how to motivate, lead, be productive, assume responsibility for myself and others, consider the principles of marketing and enterprise and even take pride in the making of the perfectly built burger or soft serve icecream!!!!!!! 

Oh and of course the most valuable thing I have integrated in my life and a lot deeper than just domestic maintenance.....  CLEAN AS YOU GO Cheesy Cheesy

Keep posting.  Know that at 0800hrs you have put a great smile on my face to begin my day.

Love Aussie Girl
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« Reply #9 on: March 24, 2007, 02:58:26 PM »

Oh that's great ;-)
It's 8pm here now (and a couple of days later Smiley ) and I'm late for a party - but I had to finish my coaching exam first!! Now I'm all proud I did it and sent it off (it's only the "half-time" exam, not the final one yet), but now I have a reason to celebrate  Grin

You know, this morning (in the shower, when you have all those great ideas) it came to me that the people who we remember forever are the ones who taught us something. Like our teachers from first grade for example, but also unpleasant people like loser-ex-boyfriends  Wink - after all they taught us what kind of people NOT to attract anymore Smiley
That's the same thing like with your "McJob" - maybe it wasn't the best job - and I imagine it incredibly hard, actually, especially motivating the team and making them productive - but how much knowledge did it give you... You'll remember that forever and use it in all kinds of other jobs or situations. I'm sure, if you can do it there, you can do it anywhere!

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