Pointing fingers

[Bell]

Hello everyone.     
I realized going back through my journal that I have been writing about other people,  the very aspect of myself,  that I loathe.  ie.   "a wash out,    won't change,  not coping very well,   not making any strides to become better, can't be bothered,   lacks motivation."    I seriously believe now  that I was writing about myself all along.  even though I wasn't aware of it at the time.    it's creepy and disgusting that we do this.   I think there are other examples of this in my life as well.   

It seems,  I'm able to first spot in others the various aspects of myself that I resist....   

What does it mean?   Why do we do this?  and most important question,  What do we do once the light has come in?      Carrie

[Jay Budzynski]

Hi Carrie

I could give you a few thoughts in reply to your questions, yet the answers to your questions will best come from yourself- If you was to take a guess the answers- what would you come up with?

What does it mean?= What does it mean to you?
Why do we do this? = What do you do? 
What do we do once the light has come in?= What do you do once the light has come in?

We do many of the thing's you ask about as we have been trained to, through our family interactions, by the media TV, Radio, etc..

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment By Eckhart Tolle
Is a book I feel you would get a lot out of, and would help you find a fuller set of deeper answers..

J

[Sequin]

Hey,

Don't be so hard on yourself.

You've had a revelation.  A lot of people never realise what you have nor do they contemplate their path as a result.  I believe we judge others so we are saved from the poignant and perhaps painful task of judging ourselves. But in doing so, we use our judgements of those people in order to understand ourselves.

In essence, this is like having a mirror held to our faces - forcing us to look at how we are perceived by others and  how this may not always be how we perceive ourselves. Sometimes our good intentions may only be known to ourselves. Other people help us become better communicators and help us understand that who we are is defined greatly by the impact and effect we have on other people and not just by how we see perceive ourselves in our own minds.

So go easy. Live and learn.

Gently,
Sequin 

[Summer]

Hi Carrie,

I agree with what both Jay and sequin have already said.  The work of Byron Katie and also a course in miracles may help you understand this concept evan more.  Something I've come to learn is that everytime we judge another we need to turn it 360 degrees.  This awareness is a little scary at first but very enlightening.