You know, sometimes I "notice" something and then I really choose not to complain about it. Funnily enough, the first thought that always crosses my mind then, is "Other people would get upset about this now."
Maybe I really just want to be different, but then again - whatever works!
I have to say that I'm quite relaxed in a lot of ways nowadays (and in others not) - I'm not sure if this happened since I read this tip from Michael the first time around (or in his book? I know I've seen it before.) or when I heard the quote "Nobody wins friends by winning an argument." the first time. All I know is that I wasn't always like that
I had a specific case this week when I got a call (after ages) from a friend, who clearly only got in touch with me because she wanted something from me. I noticed it, but I chose not to make it a big deal, because I thought, sometimes we do need a reason to get in touch again and I'm happy she found a reason and made contact again. We had a fantastic evening out, had lots of fun, noticed how both our businesses are overlapping in some way and agreed to exchange expertise. She will help me with something and I will help her, so neither of us will have to hire someone.
So far, she's only been "taking" and "didn't have time" to give much yet... I'm noticing it, but I'm not complaining..
I know that something good will come from it. Maybe she really doesn't have time. Maybe she's working for me somewhere in the background where I can't see it. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Until then I enjoy her inspiration and happiness about what I'm doing for her (which really doesn't take me a lot of effort or time).
Michael - thanks so much for the link to acomplaintfreeworld.org! I've never heard about this before and actually also never saw anyone with a purple bracelet
but I love what I read there and I've ordered the teacher's package right away! I'm not a teacher, but for a long time I've been looking for something that I could introduce to schools - classes or workshops that teach kids or teenagers a more positive outlook or some people skills. Something, that nobody taught us in school. This programme looks like a fantastic start to me!
PS - I read the PS about the Creative Leadership in Vilnius - once your in Europe, can't you come to Amsterdam again and do that one here, too?