I'm in a bit of tricky situation right now. I met a girl about a year ago through online dating and although my first impression was not good, I've grown really fond of her in this time. Simply put i've never met someone that makes me feel so comfortable and warm when i'm around her. She feels like home to me and it's this sense and connection that has me constantly thinking about whether or not I should have a relationship with her.
I feel that physical relationship would not be of the 'tear each other's clothes off variety' but would be warm and tender and caring. I'm having trouble wondering if high passion is important in this kind of relationship.
I've had bout's when i've been completely infatuated about her that I swore they were feelings of love, but the feelings subsided. I would not normally put her in the category of someone i'd go out with, but i can't help how 'right' it feels to be around her. Not spectacular, not exciting. Just good and right. Kind of feels like my place to be around her. I've not really had much interest in dating anyone else since she's been around and feel that that'll continue as long as she is.
The trouble is, as soon as i get too close, fear starts to seep in until it no longer feels good to be around her. But i can't help feel now that if i sit with the fear and remind myself that it is only fear and that it can't hurt me, it'll subside into a more natural feeling of right again.
Has anyone got any thoughts on this? They would be much appreciated.