Infatuation vs. Love
Infatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, and as athletic as Jimmy Connors. Love is when you realise that he's as sexy as Woody Allen, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger, and nothing like Robert Redford - but you'll take him anyway.
Judith Viorst
Do What you Love and the Money will Follow is not just a great book title, but has become a mantra in the personal growth community. People are continually being encouraged to "do what they love and love what they do", but despite the hundreds of books published on how the heck we find out what it is that we love (my favourites are all by Barbara Sher - start with either Wishcraft or It's Only Too Late if You Don't Start Now), many of us wind up as desperate and unhappy in pursuit of doing what we love as we are in pursuit of who we love!
Here's a simple test to see if you're in love or just infatuated -
If it hurts, it isn't love.
Today's
Experiment - A "Cure" for Infatuation:
(from Dr. John F. DeMartini's book, Count Your Blessings:The Healing
Power of Gratitude and Love)
"It
is not love, but lack of love which is blind."
-Glenway Wescott
1. Write the name of the person, thing, or event you are most infatuated with right now.
2. List ten character traits or characteristics that you like and ten you don't like about the object of your infatuation.
3. Now review the ten characteristics you like. Circle the one you believe you or your life lacks most.
4. List three times when you demonstrated the character trait, or you possessed the characteristic, you think you lack.
Have fun, learn heaps, and love what you love!
